This says so much of what I feel right now.
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This says so much of what I feel right now.
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I’ve been MIA, but, I had my reasons. First I had a flu bug, which just put me out of commission. Flu Shots are not for me. I’m not sure what’s in that concoction. The side effects may be worse for me, cuz, frankly I’m sensitive to medications.
Two days a week of physical therapy, is kicking my butt. I recently started an Adult Literacy Training Program that I am so excited to be a part of. I’ll be helping adults to improve their literacy skills. One part of the training is writing. I had to select an object and write about it for 30 minutes. I’ll share what I wrote.
Walking stick or cane, I have used one at different times in my life. Once, I broke my ankle and one was given to me after months of using, its cousin, Crutches. I graduated from you to gradually walking on my own again.
A few years later due to illness, pain and fatigue, I had to fight vanity and accepted the fact that I needed a cane. I had the belief that canes were for the elderly or the disabled. I later accepted that I did have invisible disabilities. Canes were for those who needed the assistance. There’s nothing wrong with that, however, I didn’t think that was me. But, I had to accept that it was. As time passed, I fought my hidden feelings and opinions and challenged my life as a 47-year-old cane user.
Soon, I couldn’t go anywhere without you. You became my personal companion. We’ve become Inseparable, like that Natalie Cole song. As people drifted away from me and didn’t include me in their life’s events, you were there. Perhaps, seeing you disturbed them, but we are a package deal.
I was in physical pain, but still I felt the stares from strangers. Kids seem to be drawn to you, perhaps it’s your bright and bold color. My last one was purple and you are cobalt blue. My thought was, if I have to use a cane, it might as well be fashionable. When kids, under 8, pass me, they look in awe at the metal in my hand. Their eyes follow my steps. They are walking forward while their heads turn backwards. It always makes me laugh and lift my spirits.
I like that I can fold you and not always have you visible.You were supposed to be a quick fix to help support my body, but you’ve been with me for three years and hanging on. I want a divorce from you, yet scared to quit you. My balance is bad, I sway to the side unsteadily, and I’ve fallen. Yes, I’ve fallen and couldn’t get up. I’ve violently met the sidewalk with my whole body, and it wasn’t pretty. Since you entered my life, I have managed to stay standing upwards.
I’m only 50 and have a lot of years ahead of me. I just can’t stay with you. I feel no one sees me. They see you first. I’m standing still and know their minds are wondering why I need you. I get asked by people who like your three-point legs and color, “Where did you get your cane?” “My mother needs one like that.”(Bummer) 😦
I get asked, “Did you hurt your leg?”
I never have any easy answer. Replying, I have fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue along with lower back and balance issues, just doesn’t roll off the tongue easily. I don’t think they understand that anyway. At times I say its my back, other times, I say balance problems.
You have helped me get out of chairs, in and out of cars without tripping over myself. On the days I’m so fatigued or my back is aching so badly, that I can barely get up; I appreciate you.
Very recently I started physical therapy and the goal is to “get me off that cane.” I hope you are not too upset.
She has me doing balance exercises and wall squats to strengthen my core. Painful, but I’m pushing through. Significant change will take time. I can’t stand for long periods, but I’m doing better. I couldn’t climb a flight of stairs at all. I’ve graduated very slowly, climbing up, stopping to rest, often, with you helping me all the way. I’m gasping and panting when I get to the top. They say I’m getting stronger and could be getting rid of you by the end of the summer.
We are walking farther now. I’m planning to walk around the track at the park with your help. Gradually our contact will become less and less. I’m happy and I’m honestly scared. I want you gone, but afraid of swaying my way upstairs or falling and hitting the concrete. It hurts like hell during and after that type of event. It puts holes in the knees of my pants. My budget can’t afford new clothes.
My pride gets taken away and my self-assurance gone. How will I be able to handle our breakup? Is this what’s called a dysfunctional relationship? I think so. We have done so much together. I don’t know if I can get along completely on my own.
I’d like to walk and not get weary. My new orthotics are helping. I’d like to do things on two feet instead of three. I’d like the questions to stop and for people to ignore the obvious. I have trouble walking on my own. Looking at me, minus the cane, I look like nothing is wrong with me. Looks can be deceiving.
I am strong in other ways. I know there are people who need a cane and refuse to use one. That used to be me. Maybe they can adopt you when I put you away for the last time. For me, it will show my progress. There will be joy and jubilation, tempered with some trepidation.
However, I am a survivor and I’ve been through a lot. This is another obstacle to persevere through and overcome. My cane and I will be together for just a bit longer….just a little bit…
Last year,as I anticipated turning 50, I did things I always wanted to do. On my birthday in December, I had a lovely dinner, saw the Lion King on Broadway,
and had a slice of Junior’s cake and I enjoyed every minute of it.
So, 50 is here and this year I am determined to become my very best self, to help others to the best of my abilities, to grow in faith, and do everything I can to get healthier and stronger. I’ve started out both promising and not that great on the latter. This month, I started with a healthier eating lifestyle. I had tried earlier last year but couldn’t keep it up. Now, I’m drinking green smoothies everyday, staying detoxed, eating clean foods, using stevia,eating healthy snacks and not starving myself. My Nutribullet is working overtime.
I’m hoping these new habits will heal my whole body. My intention was to attempt exercise, even though I pay later in pain, doing it sitting down, just to get moving. But as is the case with a person with fibromyalgia, my body had other plans.
I’d been having foot pain for about a month and walking became very difficult. I finally went to the orthopedist and was found to have severe tendonitis. I’ll be going to physical therapy. I’m taking anti-inflammatories, wearing an ankle brace and getting orthotics. Guess I wont be doing Zumba or Rockin Abs anytime soon. Healthy eating will continue; I’ve lost about 18 pounds and lots of inches, my clothes are fitting differently since the year began. So goal number one is underway.
I have an opportunity to use my professional skills in a different capacity, as a volunteer, a few days a week. I’m looking forward to receive training as an adult literacy tutor. My services will not put cash in my wallet, but I will be richly rewarded, helping people empower their own lives. I am praying to stay healthy once I’m trained and be an active participant on the days I need to be present. Fibro, please leave me alone, I’m trying to have a life here! Goal number two, is in process.
Through my faith and determination, I’m hoping to introduce at least one person to the Soka Gakki International the lay Buddhist organization I am a part of. This past year we were recognized a world religion.
My desire is that this person will accept and take faith. I have a leadership position taking care of members. I want to help each woman find her mission and become her best self and then have those women tell more people about our self empowering practice. From the deepest part of my heart, I sincerely want to help someone else become happy, despite the rigors of life.
Some may say that I suffer from illness, so does your faith really work? I say the only reason I continue to persevere is my faith. I have many health issues, I have a shaky financial situation every month, but I have to cover co-payments for doctor visits and transportation. I’m choosy about appointments and going places because its costly.
I count my dollars, to the penny to purchase healthy foods and still pay bills on time. All my fun last year came with a price tag, I’m trying to catch up and clear the debt. I know I’ll get through this challenge victoriously, with no fear or anger.
What my faith teaches me is to never be defeated, to have the heart of a lion king (queen) SGI President Daisaku Ikeda says.”We should never decide that something is impossible and buy into the belief, “I’ll never be able to do that.” The power of the entire universe is inherent in our lives. When we firmly decide, “I can do it!” we can break through the walls of self-imposed limitations.” “To fear hardships and resent our environment is to live with the belief that the Law [Dharma], the power to change, is outside our own life. Buddhism starts with believing in the great power of the Buddha within your own life.”
My faith says to believe in myself. I am powerful, I am confident and know I will turn around every adversity in my life, no matter what my past or present is. Through my prayer of nam myoho renge kyo, the future is bright. I will be happy as I continue to evolve. Suffering exists, but it won’t persist.
I’ll be writing this year about victories and overcoming challenges .
I truly believe these words of Daisaku Ikeda- Words have the power to save. Life is not sustained by material goods and well-being alone. People need spiritual sustenance in order to undertake fresh challenges and open new horizons.
I’ll be using words, having thoughts and giving opinions in this blog. This first month of 2016 has already had a few bumps but I’m like a Timex watch. I take a licking and keep on ticking.
When I thought about starting a blog, late last year, I wasn’t sure what I would write about. I knew I wanted to write and use my gift, but I didn’t know how I would take the thoughts in my head and make them meaningful enough for readers. I have never been a poet or one who very consistently kept a journal, as much as I tried. However, I knew there were stories, ideas and great writing inside of me that I wanted to share.
I soon realized that I could best write about myself, my experiences and life events. I was about to journey into my last year of my forties. I was determined to be more courageous so I moved ahead. Privately, I dubbed this journey, my Year of 49. I would follow myself down this pathway and see where I ended up. I wanted this year to have meaning, be fun and have some adventures.
I wanted to go to Las Vegas to celebrate my actual 50th birthday, something completely out of the ordinary for me. I have always played safe and by the rules. I could celebrate in warm weather for only the second time in my life with some family members; maybe bring in the new year on the west coast. It was discussed and agreed upon. It would be happening and I didn’t have to plan it. I would be taken care of. Yay!
So, I decided to do things this year I wanted to do, fibromyalgia be damned. The money would come from somewhere. I would just chant triple the amount of nam myoho renge kyo than usual, so that I could physically be up to it.
I had a ticket to see Diana Ross in concert and that started the ball rolling for me to also see Gladys Knight, Guy, Jill Scott, Stephanie Mills and The Whispers in concert. Music gets me though the toughest days. I wrote about all these musical experiences and how they made me happy, even though I sat through most of them in pain. I fought through it and won.
I suffered tremendous physical pain this year and I spent much time indoors, resting and also dealing with chronic fatigue. I am no longer able to hold a job, as my illness and pain levels are completely unpredictable. Living with and living on disability is not easy. I’m doing my best to live a good life and have faith both situations will change for the better.
This year, I had a few inpatient medical procedures done to help my migraines. I had aqua therapy to help the sciatica like pain running down my leg like shock waves. I had trouble sitting, standing and walking. All this was happening while dealing with the house guest from hell who threw a big monkey wrench right in the middle of my weight loss plans. Medication side effects and frustrated stress eating made a girl gain weight. Sigh…… I wanted to be slimmer and healthier by my birthday, but I got frustrated; I restarted a couple weeks ago and this time I’m making a lifestyle change. Nothing or no one will interfere with my progress again.
I wrote about my life as a person dealing with fibromyalgia. It was my most read and shared post.I was very proud of that post. It was relate-able to anyone with a chronic pain condition.
I follow news events and many touched my heart. I was angered or saddened by them, so I wrote about them. I wrote about personal sorrows and losses. I became more open about myself, more than I have ever been.
I wrote about the importance of my faith and how it helps me to grow into the person I am meant to be. I want to create value with and for my life. I volunteer once a month to record readings of SGI-USA publications on tape, for members who are visually impaired or unable to read them for themselves. I’m happy to contribute in this way to my fellow Buddhists.
The news events of 2015: mass shootings, domestic and foreign terror, police brutality, innocent Black Lives not mattering, slack gun control laws, presidential candidates spouting bigotry and spreading fear; it all became too much for my senses.
My faith and my humanity tells me and shows me all of this is wrong. Should I be packing my bags and leaving my homeland before it all goes awry? The hate filled tones may be coming towards me and my kind next. History shows this is possible. My writing desires waned and I got stuck somehow. I haven’t made a blog post since September.
My year of 49 has two weeks left. I had a 50th birthday celebration in August, with women I have known since elementary school on an evening cruise with our teachers. We all turned 50 this year. It was a great time and there was cake, 🙂 I really feel a kinship with them even though we don’t see other regularly.
My trip to Las Vegas never took off, I don’t even know what happened to it. I’m disappointed. So, the idea remains on my vision board.Next time, I’ll take control of my own plans.
Since the plans were altered,I didn’t know how I would bring in this milestone birthday. I wanted to do something I never did before. I refused to stay at home. I could do that any night of the year.
I was gifted a ticket to see a show, by the same Uncle who bought me a new bed this year (I’m so grateful to him); so that’s how I’ll spend my special day. I’ll see a production I’ve wanted to see for years. I have mused my way towards 50. I will continue writing this blog . I will be more consistent with it.
I want my 50’s to be incredible. I want better health. I want romance with real commitment. I want to walk without a cane. I want to travel to an SGI-USA conference. I want to meet my uncle and cousin. I want to stick to my healthier eating plans and get my sexy back. I want better finances and become debt free. I want to volunteer to help others to the best of my capacity. Helping others, helps me to grow. I strive to be the person Buddhism,teaches me, I can become. I want my life to matter when people see me. I want the world to be safe, free from the worst humans can do to humans. I want supreme happiness for myself and for everyone.
I wish myself a Happy Fiftieth Birthday!!!!
The Christmas season is upon us and a new year is about to start. Let’s see what wonders will come in 2016. I’m taking control of my life and being true to myself. I will create a greater life for myself in my 50’s . Thank you all for reading and I wish you all a happy and healthy holiday season filled with joy!
The end of September, is always an emotional time for me. It’s the little things, like the smell of Juicy Fruit gum that floods my mind and heart with memories. I bought a pack this weekend and thoughts of my great aunt stayed in my head. She raised me from infancy, although my mother remained in my life.
When I was a child, every time she opened her purse the sweetness enveloped my nostrils. It made me feel happy. Now, it makes me a bit melancholy. She passed away 11 years ago on September 29th. I miss her tremendously. We had a tight bond. She clung to me through her day to day illness; through the infidelity of her husband, through a life not lived to the fullest.
I was her company and I never wanted to hurt or disappoint her. Sometimes, the clinging felt like a choke-hold. I was restricted from most things kids and teenagers do. I wanted to go away to college, but was kept at home. Now,I think I understand why. The streets near do or die Bed-Stuy were mean as hell. Rap music had started in the Bronx. Crack had hit NY in epidemic proportions. Very “scary” things for a woman in her sixties, an immigrant to America, to understand and get accustomed to.
By keeping me off of the streets, in her mind, I was kept out of all kinds of trouble. If I went away to school, the control of situations (partying, etc…) would be over. I might not live up to my potential. What she didn’t realize was, I wasn’t so afraid of the Big Bad Wolf of life, but more afraid that my family wouldn’t love me if I did something wrong. Fear, for me was feeling unloved.
My mother was in my life until she passed away at age 51, 24 years ago on September 27. Every time I hear a Teddy Pendergrass song, I see my mother in my head. When I think of my first experience at Walt Disney World, I hear her voice. When I see recipes for shrimps and rice, I smell her food.
She took risks, made mistakes, because she was looking for love. She looked in all the wrong places and to the wrong people for her happiness. There have been many times, I’ve heard about her negatively, even from family members, but my heart understands her suffering. It upsets me to hear the negativity, it’s like people forget she was my mother, imperfect and flawed as she was.
She didn’t know that until she found self love, she couldn’t be happy. She craved attention,companionship and love. Her childhood was not simple. She came from a divorced family when that was frowned upon. She wasn’t very book smart, but had street smarts and could handle herself when she went out to have good times. Those weren’t taken as positive attributes by people that knew her. They failed to understand, we are not all cookie cutter images to fit into. She was flawed and there was a hole in her heart she was trying to fill.
I never lived full time with her, but she went back to school shopping with me, colored my hair, and taught me how to travel the aforementioned mean streets, including having a mean mug, or blank face so I wasn’t troubled by the unsavory. She studied and became a naturalized citizen before she left this earth.
I’m about to be 50 and she died at 51. She grabbed at life and understanding her early losses, I see why. She wanted more than what was presented in front of her. She wanted to be happy.
I’m also trying to grab at fun and enjoyment. I’m trying regardless of illness, loneliness, isolation, disappearing friends and acquaintances, disappearing invitations to celebrate life or accomplishments, lack of relationships, funky finances or whatever else life decides to throw at me .
I have my SGI-USA Buddhist practice which teaches I can be in the worse of circumstances, but circumstances shouldn’t control me. I can be happy within, no matter what happens. Big and little things, they may shake me, but will not take over my life or heart.
My mind and heart are filled with memories, things I wish I had done differently. Maturing and experiencing life will make you question how you have handled yourself. I am who I am because of the women in my life. We don’t always appreciate the whole picture, but see things one frame at a time. Growing up I saw one frame at a time. Now, I see the full picture with total clarity.
If i had one more moment spent with either of them, I would say I’m sorry you were not as happy as you could have been. I hope I brought joy to your lives. I hope your next lives will be everything you need for joy and fulfillment.
The end of September will always be this way for me. Always thinking of the little things.
It’s been awhile since I have been inspired to write. There has been so much turmoil in our country recently and my mind became blocked. There was a lot I wanted to say, but couldn’t get it out. Three mass shootings, particularly the loss of the Emanuel 9 in South Carolina really hit me in the heart and mind. When you can’t sit in your place of worship peacefully, have fellowship and pray, something is wrong.
Guns are in the hands of the wrong people. The power that the NRA appears to wield needs to taken away. Ask all the parents and family members whose lives have been violently taken by a gun, how they feel? Nothing significant happened after the Sandy Hook shooting where first graders were murdered. Gun control laws should have been changed and thoroughly enforced since then.
There have been the deaths of unarmed black people, Freddy Gray, Sandra Bland and Sam DuBose and unfortunately too many more to mention in one sitting without me crying about the state of the United States.
More people appeared outraged about the death of Cecil the Lion than the deaths of so many humans. I understand completely the outrage and sadness of an out and out murder of a majestic creature. The American dentist who killed him may be extradited back to Zimbabwe for prosecution, He may even serve some time for his crime. He has received so much backlash he had to close his dental practice. I hope they throw the book at him.
But, lately, too many black humans have been losing their lives through out and out murders and the police brutality continues and some will never pay for their crimes. With all of these stories, happening so close together I needed something to help me release.
Music has always been my solace and something that increased my joy throughout my life. I can’t recall a day where I did not have music playing in my ear. There was either the radio, albums, Walkman ,cassettes, CD’s, MP3’s, I-pod and music videos accompanying my days.
I recently lost a Facebook friend who was an encyclopedia of music of all genres. She died suddenly at age 46 and although we never met, we talked though Facebook for years. I celebrated with her this past May when she graduated. Her loss hurt, like I lost a family member. Again I sought solace through music and I remember her every time that I check out the music groups where we were both members. I miss you Note!
Music was the key to my inspiration. I had tickets a week ago to see Jill Scott in concert. She sang her hits and new songs from her new album Woman as she celebrated 15 years in the music business and I was incredibly blown away by her talent, confidence and humor from the stage. I wanted to write about it but my schedule was crazy attending aquatherapy (warm water pool is everything), going to an osteopathic psychiatrist for back and body pain and attending my Buddhist activities I didn’t have the chance. I did a lot of chanting about my situation and knew I would become inspired to write soon.
This past Friday, I was inspired by seeing veteran R & B acts, Stephanie Mills and The Whispers at the Kings Theatre . Stephanie MIlls came to fame as Dorothy in the all black cast of Broadway’s The Wiz which was later made into a film. Stephanie was in her late teens 40 years ago when she became a star. She was a girl straight outta Brooklyn and she was excited to be back home. She talked about the 40th anniversary of the show and how she would be in the televised live version scheduled for this December, this time as Auntie Em. She revealed Queen Latifah would be playing the Wiz and Mary J.Blige will play the Wicked Witch of the West. They will be rehearsing in New York. She hoped the powers that be picked a girl from Brooklyn to play Dorothy. I’m looking forward to watching it.
In between her reminiscing she gave us the greatest hits she had as a solo singer. She wore a tight black dress and as she later told us, she is 57 years old and a hot tamale. The show started with Never Knew Love Like This Before and then we were treated to the rest: What Cha Gonna Do with My Lovin’, Something in the Way (You Make Me Feel), You and I (a personal favorite), Putting A Rush On Me, I’ve Learned to Respect The Power Of Love, Feel The Fire (here she held one hell of a note and showed all of her vocal prowess),
She then went on to I Feel Good All Over, her version of UpTown Funk by Mark Ronson ft.Bruno Mars (which was kick ass!!), Put Your Body In It (taking us back to disco days and Studio 54 and she gave a shout out to the late Rick James) and finally Home (her signature song from The Wiz and perfect for the woman returning to her childhood beginnings). She sang her heart out and did it with all kinds of passion. She did all kinds of vocal acrobatics! Her body did acrobatics as she shook her booty, dipped it low and dropped it like it was hot.
Watching her do all this in heels on a under hot stage lights made me even more aware that 57 doesn’t have to equal old unless you want it to be. She has inspired me to really work hard to put these chronic illness’ and pains behind me so I could be like her in a few years. I want more fun in my life. She was bouncing all over that stage and I felt so good watching and admiring her voice and youthful spirit.
Part two of the show featured The Whispers who are celebrating 50 years of being in the music business. As one of the twin brothers Scottie said, They never would have thunk it that they would still be on stage performing. He said we even have merchandise to sell now and they were available in the lobby. They took us back in time. They began with And The Beat Goes On, then went on to entertain with In The Mood, Is It Good To You, Keep On Loving Me, Say Yes, In The Raw, Lady, Love is Where You Find It, Olivia (Lost and Turned Out )Chocolate Girl, I Wanna Know Your Name and finished off a magnificent show with It’s A Love Thing. They were smooth, silky and energetic, as they crooned and danced and made us laugh and reminisce in their royal blue jackets with gold insignia.
I walked out feeling so full of life and energy even though I was exhausted. I had great aisle seats but had to keep getting up so others could get to their seats. I felt like I ran a marathon and my back and knees were beating me up the next day. Even though I have physical limitations I am determined more than ever defeat them. I want to really live during my fifties and sixties and do the things I’ve written and posted on my vision boards over the years.
I’m chanting for peace in our world, for more happiness with less violence and hate for all humankind. I’m chanting for a full and happy life for myself. Thank you to music for opening the block. Thank you Jill Scott, Stephanie Mills and The Whispers for the entertainment and joy you have given to me over the course of your spectacular careers.
It took a month and a half, but I’m back to writing. I am happy and grateful.
It’s been awhile since I wrote a new post. I just decided to do a bit of a followup on some of my posts.
My mind has been a bit cloudy of late and i have been having trouble putting my words together. Insomnia, back pain, shooting leg pains from sciatica and a compressed nerve in my back have kept me awake at night. I also had new health diagnoses which I emotionally had to deal with. I like to make sense when I write, so I took a hiatus.
I have a few updates: I love the new bed I received from my Uncle. It vibrates. The head and bottom raise up and down by wireless remote control. The first night I vibrated, wave massaged and raised it up and down, hundreds of times. I’ve calmed down. I raise up and down only once or twice a day. The first week the bed was on wheels, but since I have hardwood floors, I was rolling every time the bed moved or I tried to sit on it, LOL. I called the company and they came to put on rubber casters to save me from rolling out of my bedroom door.
Last weekend, I fulfilled a life long dream as I returned to the Kings Theatre. I saw The Empress of Soul, Gladys Knight in concert. She was magnificent and I was on a Gladys high for days. She sang all about love, sang all her greatest hits, including Neither One of Us. I teared up a bit when she sang, The Way We Were. She put all of her voice into every note and I detected a catch in her voice at the end. She then talked about friends who had passed away, including the late Marvin Gaye. Former Pip and Gladys’ big brother Bubba came on and had his own little portion of the show, including singing Happy by Pharell Williams. She had a hard time getting the show back from him, LOL. Gladys’ voice has always done something to me because it’s filled with richness. Diana Ross has the flash, Gladys has the voice. I was really happy that I made it to the show. I was recovering from a 2 day migraine, but Gladys was not to be missed. If I ever fall into a coma, please play Gladys at my bedside, I will surely awaken.
I was awed and amazed at the response I received from my last post about Fibromyalgia Awareness Day. I spoke for many in my description of living with fibro. It is not an easy road that we travel and sometimes the road is filled with many bumps and detours.
Many people who deal with chronic illness deal with some level of depression. Let’s face it, if you were hurting all the time, your life and very being had changed overnight, depression may chase you too. There is confusion and feelings of loss of your former self. I have fought with depression and was brought to the very brink of despair.
I felt so lost, pained and alone thinking that this was all that was left for me. I couldn’t chant and felt no one understood what I was going through. I was unhappy for a myriad of reasons. I didn’t care anymore and thought that was okay. One night I took some prescribed sleeping pills, because that MF insomnia had me up for five days straight. I took a few extra pills, not caring if I woke up the next day. I wanted to rest and have peace and not pain in my body. I cried because I woke up. (Damn, I can’t even do this suicide thing right. That is what my brain told me, SMH)
After a serious crying jag for hours and talking with someone, I sought medical help and was diagnosed at the hospital with major depression and anxiety. I was put on medications to help me and also started going to therapy to finally talk about issues from my childhood to adulthood. Therapy and also learning how to use my faith to uplift me in dark moments were the greatest gifts I received from that life moment.
A few of my Buddhist sisters were the first people to visit me in the hospital. For the first time in months, I chanted. It’s a memory I will always treasure. The compassion that they showed me made me feel very loved at a time when I felt empty. At that time I had not really, reached out to people who could and would have helped me on the path. They could have shown me how to utilize my faith and still get medical help. Buddhism is reason and I wasn’t using it.
Many years later, I’m no longer taking medications, but I still go to therapy, because there are many bumps and detours on the road of life. Depression can be a long battle for most people who have experienced it. I have fought and won over the major hurdles. I plan to live, live well and live the greatest life possible, filled with happiness no matter the circumstances that I am facing.
I reveal myself so transparently because June is Mental Health Awareness month.
We don’t know what other people are going through. They may appear fine, but be in a dark place. Your health is important, Your mental health is also important. You are not “crazy to take medication for your mental health. Don’t refuse to see a “head shrinker” because no one in your family ever did it. In order to open our lives and change it, we have to do something different from what we are accustomed to. There are many people trained to help us get out of the darkness. If you see someone who seems down, be kind to them. Kind words without judgement is what they need. Everyone could use a helpful and compassionate ear. Compassion is sorely lacking in our world.
I chant Nam myoho renge kyo to uplift me and I read encouraging guidance and books from SGI President Daisaku Ikeda. He reminds me, I have a mission for my life and it is to help others and show them through my life that they can be happy. We call this actual proof. I know I went through the hardest struggle so I can encourage other people, as I am now on the other side of depression.
My faith keeps me on the right path through this journey of life. No matter what, I will continue to chant everyday, morning and evening prayers to stay the course and never give up. That is what my Buddhist faith has taught me.